There are two ways to change. You can grit your teeth and try really hard, which usually either gives you a fat head or a headache. Or you can take the harder and easier road of leaving the whole business in someone else’s hands, which will surprise you.
“‘Who are you?’ said the Caterpillar. . . . Alice replied, rather shyly, ‘I— I hardly know, sir, just at present — at least I know who I was when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been changed several times since then.’" Lewis Carroll
“[U]nless a grain of wheat falls into the earth and dies, it remains by itself alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit.” John 12:24