When it comes to forgiving somebody, the members of the committee inside you usually have a lot of different opinions. The loudest one is angry and likes to rehash the awful things the person has done to you. Another committee member talks a lot about how much the person has hurt you and keeps warning you not to let that happen again. But it’s important to also listen to the quieter members of the committee – the kind one (who can still see good in the person) and the honest one (who remembers that you’re not perfect either) and the practical one (who says that it doesn’t make sense to keep carrying this weight around every day) and the artist (who can imagine the fresh air you’ll be breathing after you forgive) and the reassuring one (who reminds you that Rome wasn’t built in a day). If you do a good job chairing the committee, you’ll probably make a good decision.
“[J]ust as I forgive _____ who trespasses against me.” From Matthew 6:12